Dear Dr Post,
Whilst I was lying on the operating theatre’s “slab” – awake because I’d had been administered a local anaesthetic only, I talked about you with the team surrounding me during the procedure. It was the perfect opportunity & a highly-charged environment. My nervous babbling was directed at the young surgeon who was implanting my permanent pacemaker. I did say, that it would behoove him to google you & dive deeply into your messages & the contributions you’ve made to humanity, the field of medicine & research. I hoped that an awareness of you and your messages would cause him to search you out. If he takes the time to absorb and apply the wisdom, I imagine it could make him a better doctor and also a favoured colleague.
It’s not that he was unkind or lacked compassion that compelled me to tell him about you. It’s just that I believe we can all “do better & be even brighter”. Of all of the specialists I met he seemed the most “human”.
On my journey through all of the investigative procedures, plus pre & post surgical processes at one of the newest & most delightful University hospitals in Australia, I felt like deliberately reaching out, taking up space & time and holding everyone’s hands to share an important message. I wanted their attention & the connection so that I could tell them about you and hopefully inspire them to engage in a more beautiful way of caring; that with compassion & goodness. I wanted each person to bring to life the Golden Rule. Why? Because, I feel strongly that embodying Stephen Post-ness would not only make them a better member of society & a more nurturing member in their families and for their friends, but it would improve their “being-ness” at work. I suspect that this “positive transformation in their being-ness”, would dramatically impact their effects, satisfaction & fulfilment in their daily duties, overall in their careers & of course, it would emphatically change the experience for patients like me. It would have made me feel more loved, and I dare say it would have helped me to cope with the situation & heal faster and more fully.
Please don’t get me wrong when I say this, because I am very grateful for my pacemaker & the care that I did receive but the sum of it all felt “transactional”. Maybe the limitations of the profit motive or managing to a budget requires this in a modern-day hospital; it just seems a shame.
Thank goodness I’ve been such a devoted student and practitioner of the activities & exercises I’ve learned from the insights born of the fields of positive psychology and neuroscience as they relate to our emotional, mental and physical wellbeing; as well as flourishing, thriving & being productive as an entrepreneur.
I’m not sure how I would have fared had I not been “positively-priming” myself with our software for years. We’re very fortunate that the scientific studies have been done and initiated or facilitated by people like you. The whole world has a a better chance of faring well given your contributions. THANK YOU. I’d like for MORE people to know MORE about “compassionate care” and the consequences for the bottom-line and also our bodies & minds’ optimal health.
O, I imagine some would perceive me as Pollyanna-ish and too innocent or naive to realities of the workings of these huge institutions in order to wish for a kinder, more gentle, softer & more appropriate-touch-based hospital experience.
During the recovery period, I reflected, a lot on the word “health-care”, as in: the healthcare system and healthcare workers. I’m not sure “care” is a natural fit for these times by laws of averages. I’d posit for the majority of patients, the experience doesn’t feeling like there’s “genuine or sincere caring” involved.
Let’s continue being the change we wish to see in the world.
I’m off to watch your PositivePrime Session called “It’s Good To Be Good”